Today
I give you another chapter in the series on "unsexy skills"
– i.e. the characteristics that at first don’t seem to be
glamorous at all, but without which you won’t get far in life.
Or
at least not to a place you want to be in: a successful, fulfilled
life without financial hardship.
(all
students who DO NOT aspire to this, please change direction now and
leave the room. Thank you.)
Some
of you will already have absorbed the following characteristic with
the proverbial mother’s milk, and others will start feeling rather
uncomfortable now.
Same
thing applies this time:
Don’t
take it in intellectually and then add this as another bullet point
to your “I-will-have-to-improve-myself-to-do-list”, but absorb
and bam! straight to your heart.
Everything
will fall into place, you will see…
Because
today we’re talking about:
3.
Industriousness, diligence, effort.
The
media shows a somewhat warped image of reality (yeah, right,
something ENTIRELY new):
They
will “discover” you and you can obtain fame with sometimes very
limited abilities.
Sometimes
just your looks will suffice, sometimes weird behavior – at any
rate you’ll be a “celebrity” in no time and earn a living by
doing nothing (or very little).
To
mention it right at the start:
If
you want to achieve anything in life forget people like that once and
for all.
Just
forget it.
Don’t
ponder for one second why they can do this and that, don’t analyze
it and don’t even wish for their path in life, not even a little
bit.
Promised?
I
am utterly convinced:
No
sweet without sweat.
By
this I don’t mean that you have to earn everything in life.
No
– I just believe that making an effort as such is something very
beautiful and fulfilling and you won’t get very far without it.
Yes,
there are people who are privileged to (or forced to) work just a
little or even not at all.
In
most cases these people had previously been very diligent, so that
they can have others work for them now.
Or
their parents were very industrious.
Or
their parents’ parents – no matter: real success has its seed
from which the tree grew, the fruit of which still feed the
grandchildren.
A
wonderful thing!
Industriousness
has a really unsexy image – if your friend whispers in your ear
that “this guy is a really hard worker” you probably won’t tear
off your clothes the next time you happen to run into him.
Although
this man will probably get far in life ;).
To
make an effort means to set yourself a goal and to reach it –
independent of the current mood and independent of whether you ”feel
like it”.
Our
society holds hanging out, relaxing, resting in high regard.
Sure,
they are all important and definitely have their place – but some
people do NOTHING but relax.
And
then they are surprised that nothing’s progressing.
Some
are convinced that one day success will just fall into their lap –
that their time will come.
With
this attitude they completely forget to plant what was given to them
NOW (their seed), and to care for it and nourish it every day.
And
then to their great astonishment there is no tree to be seen.
Believe
me:
There
are only few trees that can walk.
I
haven’t met any until this day, if I really think about it.
There
will be no tree walking up to your doorstep or even fall from the sky
– if you have not planted one and have diligently cared for it.
And
now I’ll tell you something:
It
is NICE to be busy.
And
it is NOT nice to always just hang out – somehow a human being
isn’t made for that!
I
read a beautiful sentence on Instagram yesterday:
"created
to create".
BAM!
That’s
exactly how it is!
You
have so many abilities, gifts and talents that it is a disgrace to
squander them and, instead of putting them to good use, to lounge
around on the couch, to meet people for coffee all the time, to hang
out for days on end in bed/with friends/whatever, and time is
ticking.
I
know that in Germany we save water, and other resources are not being
squandered either – the real scandal, though, is that many people
squander their lives away with cheap television series or meaningless
telephone calls.
Why
aren’t there any campaigns against that?
Why
doesn’t anyone ever say that working hard is sexy:
Instead
there are innumerable funds spent on wellness/relaxation/time-out
techniques, week-ends etc.
To
be diligent also means to sometimes overcome reluctance – and just
get something done.
To
tackle things instead of just constantly talking and dreaming about
them.
To
be industrious means to see something through and to deliver a
presentable result – and all that within a reasonable time span.
To
make an effort means: here is my goal – I will pull this off –
and I won’t stop, because a great song happens to be playing on the
radio/my TV soap is about to start/I’d rather talk on the phone to
a friend and generally…don’t feel like it anymore.
We
all know it all too well.
Being
diligent means to exhibit constancy, and not to give up due to all
sorts of sensitivities in order to take a time out.
A
cigarette here, a coffee there, a little break, just checking in on 5
more blogs and isn’t it time for lunch yet?
You
are busy, but not with anything productive – and then you wonder
that nothing really progresses?
Oh,
come on!
I’ll
say it more bluntly:
The
opposite of industriousness is laziness.
(and
not being relaxed, as some might falsely assume.)
And
honestly: who wants to be with a man who is simply lazy all the time?
THAT
is totally unsexy!
I
believe that most of us could do more* - for that, though, they might
possibly have to leave their comfort zone, move their butts, overcome
their reluctance and sweep aside the distractions.
AND
THEY WOULD BE SURPRISED HOW MUCH THEY WOULD GET DONE IN LIFE!
Unfortunately
we associate such negative things with being “industrious”:
So
many unpleasant, tiring things that one rather doesn’t want to do.
Yet
it is such a beautiful characteristic!
I
enjoy it very much, if my day was successful, and the lovely
fulfilled feeling after work is done.
Sometimes
I have a choice whether I want to work some more in the evening, or
not:
I
am completely free, I don’t have to justify anything to anyone and
can decide any which way I want.
And
then I sometimes think to myself: “Oh, come on, put in one more
effort now.”
Believe
me, I haven't regretted it once!
NEVER!
Quite
on the contrary!
Some
people are too lazy to prepare themselves a fresh meal in the evening
that would be beneficial for their bodies – out of sheer laziness
they stuff their precious bodies with any old processed stuff.
Some
are too lazy to exercise – their reluctance keeps them from staying
fit and healthy even into their old age.
Some
are too lazy to tidy - and burden themselves and their family with a
chaotic environment.
When,
with a little bit of an effort, everything could quickly change!
"Yes,
Joanna... I do want this ... but then there’s my weaker self and I
don’t manage ..."
Baby,
honestly:
WHO
THE HECK IS THIS WEAKER SELF?!
WHO?!!!
The
“weaker self” is an inferior, utterly weak energy of reluctance
and laziness that stops you from living your full potential.
And
just because they gave it a name, wrote tons of books about how to
overcome it, and invented tons of techniques how to handle it – it
still stays weak, little and copies everything you do!
Truthfully:
It’s
NOTHING, miserable, ridiculous and is NO threat to you at all.
You’ll
get over it so bloody easily!
You
won’t allow an ant to bring you to your knees either, do you?
Even
if they called it “the weaker self ant” and wrote books about it
– it would still remain an ant that you remove with a flick of your
thumb!
That’s
how the cookie crumbles!
The
weaker self is just an excuse for the weak who don’t want to
anyway.
But
you want to and that’s why it’s not even worth mentioning.
You
can save on those books.
(You
better give the money to me, it’s gonna be in good hands. A joke! A
jo-o-o-ke!)
"But
Joanna..."
Not
worth mentioning!!!
No
obstacle for you, never again!
If
you really want to, pfffft!
(if,
on the other hand, you don’t want to, then nothing can be done.)
Important:
If
I write about diligence I do NOT mean “slaving away”, “plugging
away” all day long, struggling out of fear of not succeeding in
life otherwise.
This
is not what I’m talking about!
I
believe in a balanced relation between work and leisure – and in a
disciplined everyday life which is not used to hang out and about
without zest and motivation.
But
this is a FAR CRY from stress, pressure, burnout – workaholics have
the same problems as lazy bums, they just hide it differently ;).
I
don’t place work ethic as a value in and of itself on a pedestal,
neither do I say “business before pleasure”.
Instead,
how about enjoying business and having the pleasure at the same time?
Somehow
this also is your life time – I will never understand that people
look forward to the week-end or their vacation more than to the rest
of the time.
Of
course everyday life is different – but no less beautiful!
Just
different.
Usually
busier ;).
"Well,
Joanna – you can say that, because you have your dream job. I.
however, don’t like what I do.”
First:
Yes,
I have a dream job.
Nevertheless
there are things that I find unpleasant.
Do
you want me to let you in on how I handle them?
If
I absolutely don’t feel like doing something, I DECIDE to feel like
it.
"Come
on, Joanna, you are a diligent girl!” – and then I don’t wait
until I feel like it (because I might as well wait until the year
2057…), but I get going.
And
all is well, EVERY TIME!
Tadaaaa,
trick #17!
Second:
Whatever
I have to do – at least I have somebody near me that I really like.
I
am always with somebody who I honestly love, enjoy and value:
MYSELF.
And
things are great anywhere, together with me – I make them great by
my presence, don’t I ;)? That’s why it’s so easy for me.
I’m
always there ;).
And
third:
If
you truly and honestly hate what you have to do, do something else.
But
DO something!
And
don’t wait until “the right moment” or until “God does
something”.
How
is God supposed to do something unless through you?
My
husband tells me repeatedly that he admires my industriousness.
I
wonder every time what he actually means by it – as what he
perceives as industriousness doesn’t feel like it to me.
At
least not in this “I have to bring myself to do it” sense.
I
just love to achieve something, I have fun pulling something off –
and when I’m busy I finish much more than other people in the same
time, and subsequently myself and my family benefit from it ;).
A
win-win situation in other words!
A
funny story to wrap up:
Once
a Liebesbotschaft reader won the main prize at a give-away.
She
wrote me an enthusiastic mail which read:
"I
won! Thank you, God, thank you, thank you, thank you!”
I
basically answered her:
"God
is such a bad blog author.
He
doesn’t take pictures, he doesn’t write posts, not once has he
started a give-away!
It’s
me who does all this, honestly!”
On
this note:
Diligence
is sexy!
And
definitely gets you further!
Love
Joanna
*I
don’t mean mothers with 3 toddlers that are already hovering at the
edge of their sanity!
Just so it’s clear. They should catch some
sleep.
Thank you so much, Eva from Ginnell Studio for this great translation!
